What do you want in a person? How much have you thought about it?
Perhaps they need to be cute. Maybe they should be able recite the entire back catalogue of Fleetwood Mac. Whatever it is, do you want your date to entertain you?
That is the sense I'm getting from everyone who uses online dating. Almost every single profile I've read has made a very specific demand, to make them laugh. You have to be funny. Now, to me, that's a pretty tall specific order.
Just thinking about the comedy scene there are umpteen genres of live comedy. From observational to racist, and everything in-between. Without getting to know someone, how do you know they will make you laugh, or indeed you will make them laugh?
What if you're more Frasier funny, and your date was expecting King of Queens funny? There's no coming back from a corked merlot joke.
We all think we're funny in our own way, but even I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea. No everyone wants to make abortion jokes to your newly pregnant friend.
It's OK. She found them funny, I think. We're still talking on a semi-regular basis.
A more important point to all this is just how self-absorbed do you have to be to demand entertainment? A date is a two-way thing. You need to bounce off each other, entertain each other. Otherwise go to a stand-up show by yourself. That's what I do. It's a sad lonely existence, but for an hour every night I can laugh.
I don't make any demands. I don't expect anything from you. Maybe I should demand things. Maybe it's time to bring out the list of expectations. Is that where I'm going wrong?
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